5 ways you can handle your desires when single
If you are single, you will need to learn how to handle your desires.
Being single is not easy especially when your friends go on and on
about how awesome their previous night was as you sit and sip your juice.
Before you start feeling shy and uncomfortable, having urges are
quite normal and nothing to feel bad about.
Since it is a common thing, if you are single, you will need to learn
how to handle your desires. And these desires are not gender-based,
it goes without saying that we have all experienced them.
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For women, these desires can be strongest during ovulation
and after a period. Being single and experiencing these desires is tough,
to say the least. That said, here is how you can cope if you are single:
Accept that it is perfectly normal
First and foremost, you shouldn’t feel bad about having these desires
as they are perfectly normal. I know you are wondering where
they have come from considering you literally have nobody tuning you.
Well, they are quite natural and your hormones or mind can be
the cause. Don’t feel ashamed but accept that it is part of
life and everyone has these desires.
You don’t necessarily have to heed to these desires
Your mind is stronger than your desires. I know sometimes you
just want someone to give you a 365 days experience but well
you are single, aren’t you? You can distract yourself from thinking
about things that turn you on by focusing on other things.
If you must, go out and get some ice cream or grocery shopping.
Controversial as it may be, you can opt to go this way. Find safe
ways to pleasure yourself if the urge is too strong for you to handle.
But don’t make this a habit as it can get very addictive
and have an effect on sex life.
Look for a friend with benefits (FWB)
Well, friends with benefits are known to come through whenever we
need to meet our desires. This might not be for everyone but if
you can have one partner without feelings attached then why not?
Just make sure that it’s safe and the arrangement is consensual.
If it’s too severe and it’s affecting many aspects of your life, seek therapy.
Sometimes sexual desires can be overpowering in that
you are not able to control them.
If it starts affecting your work or social life it’s time to see a professional
as you also risk having it affect your future relationships.
Feel no shame about this as it’s very normal and seeking professional
help is a great way to deal with this.